Sprinkle some love.

This post is something that could earn me a lot of hate messages, as I'm about to completely contradict most people's perspective of love. I'm about to sound completely idiotic, completely stupid, completely senseless to most people. But that is exactly what I don't care about. Now, those of you who are mature would realise that it's not most of the people that I don't care about, but what most of the people think- what goes on in the minds of most people that annoys me. That's what I don't care about.

Dating, posting photos of the two of you on Instagram, buying expensive gifts for one another, messaging something everyday without fail, overthinking about what the other person feels, spending time for the other person while you should be doing something important for yourself or for those of your family, spending time unnecessarily to travel to the other person's place even though it is a complete waste of time, promising infront of the other person's face that you've left a bad habit which the other person wants you to stop, but secretly continuing to do the same thing again and then using fake means to cover up what you've done, supporting the other person and saying, "It's okay, I know that it's tough" or "I know that it's hard for you, it's fine"- all these have become today's definitions and standards of love.

At this point of time, I'd like to make it clear that I don't want to pretend that this is a problem that occurs naturally. Because it isn't. And I'd like to admit that it annoys me. And I don't appologise anyone if it hurts anyone, because what I'm about to ask you is the truth. And anything other than this is purely fake, and you all know that it is.

People know for themselves that none of this is even slightly close to what love ever can be. People know that simply posting photos on Instagram and then a few months later, breaking up and deleting all those photos from Instagram isn't love. People know that it's not required to buy expensive gifts for one another, and that the simplest things would satisfy them very much. People know that the easiest, best, and the least chaotic way of dealing with things (whatever they may be), is to be straightforward. People know that when they spend time for the other person compromising their responsibilities, they're going to face trouble later. People know that bad habits are meant to be left for good, and that when the other person knows about your secret habits, they're going to get hurt badly. People know that someone has to tell them that what they're doing is wrong, or they're going to end up in trouble.

What really annoys me is that, inspite of knowing all this, people continue to do the same thing, they continue to not address the wrong things and continue to support them, leading themselves and the other person to a bad situation.

All I'm asking is, when you know that the other person is unnecessarily wasting time doing what they're not supposed to do, why don't you tell them to do what's right? Why do you suggest the easy way and not the right way? One may argue that staying nice to the other person earns their trust. True. But don't you realise that you were in the position to stop them from doing thing and ending up in trouble? Don't you realise that they'd end up in trouble, in a helpless situation, and still not realise that you didn't stop them from doing the wrong things even though you had the choice?

When you know that the other person is coming to pay you a visit that's completely a waste of their time, why don't you tell them that it's not worth it? One may argue that visiting each other and meeting each other helps improve bonding. True. But if your relationship is so weak that you have to meet each other all the time to stay in love, it's time you start rethinking your perspective on love.

When you know that the other person is spending money on expensive gifts that won't give you the satisfaction you get by simply seeing the other person happy, why don't you tell them that it isn't needed? Or, when the other person has a mindset of expecting a lot from you, why don't you try correcting their mindset by saying that placing so much expectation on anything other than one's self isn't the right thing?

When you know that the other person wants you to stop a bad habit whose harm is known to both of you, why do you still continue to secretly succumb to it and make false claims infront of the other person's face that you've left it? Why don't you discontinue it completely, or at least admit it in front of the other person's face?

When you generalise it all, people are giving more importance to feelings than thoughts and ideas. People don't think any more. They feel. People don't question anymore. They assume. People don't analyse any more. They guess. People fall for those who are nice. Not for those who are true. People are more comfortable around those who support wrong than those who point it out and suggest changes.

I think... no. I know, that we can do better. We can sprinkle some love. True love.